Getting Close

It never occurred to me growing up how some people could bad mouth another or make people believe false information about someone else. I would always think, “Wow can’t people just mind their business and leave others alone?”

I remember in grade school, there were some girls who made it their mission not to like me; however, we didn’t even hang out or get to know each other. Yet they made it their priority in school to tell others not to be friends with me and give false information about me. To this day I don’t know what was wrong with them. While in middle school, a person who ended up being my lab partner and later a friend said to me “I don’t know what Leena and Hera are talking about, but you are nothing like what they try to get others to believe…you’re even more popular than the both of them combined.”

Once news began to spread about how those people were trying to get others on their side to not be cool with me, other people started saying “Yea that’s not Vee, and why are they obsessed with talking about her badly?” Well turns out, people don’t always have to have a valid reason for the things they do or say.

If the feeling of jealousy, hate, delusion, sabotage, etc. is within them, it will definitely get the best of them as they try to use whatever psychological tools they can come up with to succeed in their wrong and see you “cave.” The closer someone is to you, or the more convincing they can seem in their deceit, the more they can influence others to see their view and twist their stories to fit their perspective. It’s crazy to know of the lengths people will go for their own gain.

It’s Toxic Credibility…

People are more open to hearing negative information from a person who may be a relative, a (former) friend, a close co-worker, or anyone who has been in close or intimate contact with another. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized how crazy it is for people to believe just anybody, even if they should be fully trustworthy.

This has also brought me to a place of setting boundaries.

Whether people know me very well or don’t know me at all. I’ve grown to make it my life’s mission to keep healthy distances, listen intently, and realize who can really be trusted and taken for face value. Although there’s no way to stop everyone from saying anything and everything (whether true, false, or twisted), setting boundaries and not trying to be everyone’s best friend, gives me the opportunity to go my own path and create my own standard.

Don’t get me wrong, I love socializing and being around people to an extent, but I’ve had a few but too many situations where people whether from grade school to undergrad or even in the community, made it their life’s priority to shame me as if I was a threat to their well being.

I take people in doses and I take my life’s happiness in strides.

There’s no way to stop everything but there is always a way to be your genuine true self. There's a benefit in being intentional about healthy boundaries, and there's a benefit in being successful with your life’s focus.

No one should ever have the power to take you away from you.

People can say and think whatever they want, but in the end what matters is who you are as a person. It doesn’t matter how close someone thinks they can get just to become scum in your life. Their personal problems will always be their personal problems. Until they take the time to be true to themselves and get the real help their soul craves, they will have repetitive drama-filled stories that will only stop once people ignore their unhealthy and toxic behaviors. For in the end, when it comes to you and your well being, your greatness will always prevail. Stay true to yourself.

The truth and goodness always have the win!