Keep It Casual
Updated: May 2, 2020
I’m not one to boast, but I think I’ve experienced enough in regards to the opposite sex to know what I do want and what I don’t want.
FYI--if he invites you back over to his place for coffee,
I assure you he doesn’t have all the ingredients for actual coffee.
Other than being in college and meeting guys or even their non-college friends, I’ve met people through mutual friends. Oh yea, and also from living this joyous and dreadful adult-filled life.
Sporadic ventures allow me to see there is no problem with enjoying one’s company.
No need to give your all in trying to impress someone. Let the pieces fall where they may and never get discouraged with the outcome. Casual dating is a time to see you and experience other people. No need to seclude your main environment or feed into a series of empty dating promises. The joy of casual dating is being comfortable. With each experience, keep in mind on your venture to know what it is you want and know when enough is enough. No one should overwhelm you. No one should control you. No one should lead you on, especially without proper verbal communication.
Casual dating may not always go as planned but just know there are some signs that are early red flags. Other signs are reminders of more communication is needed. Meetups, casual dating, planned hangouts, whatever you want to call the action you are partaking in, know your level of comfort.
Stay safe. Always know your boundaries.
If a person is clingy already and there are no titles, it’s a red flag. If it’s always a mystery or an inconvenience when the bill comes out, it’s a red flag. If you go out with a person so much and they feel as if you owe them something, that’s another red flag.
If there are no official labels, no actual relationship conversations, no efforts of honesty and understanding, and if it feels like a burden then you’re casual dating efforts need a break. Take a time of reflection to gather your thoughts without the input of the other person. This is about you.
Your happiness is what matters and communication is always key.
As long as you feel comfortable and secure then please go out and enjoy your time. We all have one life to live and ventures to go on.
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