Traits and Types

21st century views on dating, there’s a misinterpretation on what it is. Casual Dating has no connections. It’s a time for you as well as the other person to enjoy each other’s company without feeling pressured in pursuing something more. If there’s more later, it needs to be verbally communicated and consensually agreed upon. Titles are an area for discussion, but before titles there’s dating. These few types are centered around the female experience. Fellas I would love to hear your experience as well! This is all in fun so if you get irked or feel confused, drink a latte and vibe, also check your weekly meeting schedule.

“I Don't Know My Way Around the Area Too Much"

This person is normally a complete stranger. They are new to the area, you meet them on a dating app or you meet them at a casual place like happy hour or you meet at a party. The conversation is smooth, there’s definitely a connection, but it’s not to the point of “Let’s go make out.” With this type it’s easy to exchange contacts. If exchanged, just know they’ll want to visit several places like tourists. This is great for you to experience places you don’t usually go to. In this situation, they should be offering to pay or you both agree to "Go Dutch." Either way it shouldn’t be a big deal.

You might not find interest with this type; however, they are building an interest in you. Ultimately they want to know where your head’s at. The bond is there but if one conversation goes wrong then it’s over. If they suddenly start showing possessive behavior please note that’s a red flag. You’ll either have the gut feeling to cut the ties or on their own they’ll suddenly become unavailable. This happens either before they make a move towards intimacy/titles or after you’ve suddenly had an intimate moment with this person. However, once it’s done it’s done. They don’t know their way around and as long as you weren’t sightseeing at your normal hangouts with this type, the chances of you seeing them again are very slim.

“The Travel Enthusiast”

This type you’ll randomly come into contact with. Maybe he’s a friend of a friend, or you meet him randomly at a lounge while the game is playing. Above all, he’s a businessman. What makes this type different is they at least know their way around and have a lot of experience (take it at your leisure). This type is mature. They’ve had their ups and downs with love so they’ve become more sure of themselves. The Travel Enthusiast is into planning, so either you’re on board or you’re not. To get on board with them, you have to take the first step towards adventure or they’re moving on. If you show confidence and grace, they’ll remember you even if you forget their name.

The Travel Enthusiast has no problem with paying, and they’ll never look at you to pay your share. They are entertainers and they want you to feel at ease. The more this friendship grows, the more they’ll see if it can be anything more. They aren’t the type to hit and quit but remember they do travel so the likelihood of work taking them away is normal. It’s easy to feel a connection with them and even become intimate with them before anything is official. If he wants titles, he will do everything he can verbally and with action to make you the one. Mr. Travel Enthusiast is a natural charmer. However, it’s key to remember they can be here one day and gone the next if it’s not official. Maybe their job has them travelling elsewhere, maybe they want to fix their former relationship with a wife/kids (Oh yea, this type can also have a whole other life, do your research), or maybe they see you’re ready to commit but they aren’t ready for it. This isn’t the type to leave you high and dry, they’ll still randomly contact you and check up on you as a nice gesture. Eventually the ultimate expectation is you’ll fall off, they’ll move on, but they’ll reminisce about you. If things don’t work out, you’ll be added to their catalog of anecdotes.

“The We Have Actual Mutual Friends"

This type is a surprise. Maybe you’ve met him years or even decade(s) ago. There was nothing there but suddenly a friendship develops. You both start hanging out more and speaking to each other more--without the knowledge of your mutual friends. You connect differently and you have a lot in common. Sometimes with these situations maybe you both carry excess baggage and both of you are aware of each other. This can create some hesitancy with moving forward; however, if there are no current loose ends with other relationships, this one can actually move sooner with the conversation of “Where are we going with this?”

This type you don’t have to wonder or question, even their worse flaws you’re aware of, and arguments don’t last forever. This type is also easier to have a situationship with (uh-oh), but it’s harder to let go if either of you want to move on. After a while people will start to suspect something is going on, and they’ll most likely accept it, but they’ll be quick to remind you of all the excess baggage. If it works with We Have Actual Mutual Friends, then the titles and the courtship will be there. The build up can definitely lead to something magical! Wedding Invites? (lol). If it falls a part, please don’t break up the bond of friendship, don’t even make the mutual friends choose who to still be friends with. Tread lightly and end on mutual terms in peace. This type has the potential to last a long time. In the end just know what it is you are both doing, what you both want, support each other, be open, build, and remember to respect boundaries.

"That's All The Surface Talk For Now!

Have you experienced another type? Do you recognize any of these types? Leave a comment, let's chat! There's definitely more that could be discussed. There's levels to this! CHEERS!